The Offbeat Bride: Julie, Offbeat Bride Tribe member
Her offbeat partner: Chris
Date and location of wedding: Deity, Brooklyn, NY — May 25, 2014
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We wanted our wedding to be a reflection of us. Our boutonnieres and bouquets were paper flowers that were made specifically for the person wearing them (i.e. my friend who is a nurse practitioner had her bouquet made Grey’s Anatomy-themed).
Chris likes to refer to my arms as “t-rex like” so we wanted to incorporate that into our wedding, hence Mona the Dinosaur, the t-rex ring bear, and the lollipop favors. Chris designed our save-the-date comics which were then turned into stickers for our wine bottle centerpieces.
Our cake toppers featured us in our favorite team jerseys (FC Barcelona and the Tampa Bay [Devil] Rays). We highlighted desserts we love and wanted a fun, relaxed atmosphere.
Tell us about the ceremony:
Our friend, Leighann, who introduced us and is ordained in NY state, officiated. She was so awesome and did such a good job. We wouldn’t have wanted anyone else to perform our ceremony. Chris and I actually really first got to know each other at her wedding, where I was the officiant and he was a reader, so having her perform our wedding was great.
My cousin, Kelly, and Chris’ old roommate, Nate, did a reading of “A Lovely, Lovely Love Story.” I bought it for Chris on our first dating anniversary, mainly because of the dinosaurs.
Our friend (we often call her our daughter), Jen, read Chief Justice Margaret H. Marshall’s decision from “Goodridge vs. Department of Health.”
We borrowed a line from an excellent Offbeat Bride wedding we read earlier this year that featured the line, “And so as Beyonce, the patron saint of marriage said, if you like it, you should put a ring on it and so you shall.” The audience erupted with laughter.
We read our own vows. Some highlights included, “I will love you, even when you act like Nell, from the movie Nell,” and “You’ve seen me at my worst and I know you’ve seen at my best because I’m at my best when I’m with you.” We ended with a kiss and a fist bump then danced down the aisle to “Higher and Higher.”
Our biggest challenge:
Our original venue owner abruptly shut the doors and took all our money 17 days before our wedding. I had a fairly emotional breakdown (it included crying at a little boy’s bar mitzvah while looking at venues) but between Chris’ positive attitude, our amazing new reBar ex-brides and grooms community, our fantastic friends and family and Caio and Kristine from Deity (who saved the day), we had what probably turned out to be an even better wedding than we originally planned. We can’t thank everyone at Deity enough, we’ll always be grateful to them for helping us put together such an amazing wedding in less than two weeks.
My favorite moment:
For me, it was when Chris read his vows. He even referenced our favorite LIRRconductor, who was clearly hammered one evening and yelled over the intercom, “Attention to the brake man; you… me… yeaaahhhh.” Chris ended his vows with, “In the words of our favorite LIRR conductor: you, me, yeaaaahhh.”
My funniest moment:
Chris and his mom decided to turn their mother/son dance into a medley. It started out with “When You Wish Upon A Star,” segued into “(I Wanna) Rock and Roll All Night,”then turned into “Ninja Rap” (yes, from The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles II), and finished with “Fish Heads.” Watching Chris and his mom booty dance was something I will never forget.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding?
Please consider getting wedding insurance. It may seem stupid and a waste but please, if you take anything away from this, please consider it. We’ll likely never see a cent back from the all-inclusive wedding venue we had paid for in full that was stolen (remember, it closed just a couple weeks before the wedding). You never know what could happen over the course of an engagement.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: Ashlee Salomon, Wedding Pros
- Cake: My Halal Tummy — Amirah stepped up for us in a big way when she stepped in and agreed to make our cake a week before our wedding. It was a three-tiered cake, with the bottom being chocolate Cocoa Puffss, the middle being banana’s foster with caramel, and the top being apple cinnamon with Cheerios.
- Officiant: Sister Leighann Starkey
- Mantilla: Alisa Brides
- Bridesmaid dresses: ModCloth
- Bride’s earrings: Bauble Bar
- Bride’s shoe flowers: Hair Flowers Atelier
- Bridal party hair and makeup: Parlor
- Getting ready robes: Silk and More
- Venue (ceremony space, reception, and catering): Deity